My how time flies since I wrote the last post. Well, I have taken my own advice to heart and actually listened to my heart. I'm now living in Vancouver starting a new chapter with Mark and Milo. We arrived yesterday, and it is just perfect to be here.
What an amazing, and yes, relaxing weekend in NYC! Mark and I had both dreamed of visiting New York for longer than a transfer to another flight.
Mark and I did everything we could - Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island, Empire State Building, Central Park, walking around Manhattan, the subway, saw a show called Fuerzabruta, and most importantly visited my old friend Minal!
While in town, we also managed to go shopping for the biggest maternity store around (3 stores, 3 levels!) and to drop off my US ballot to confirm my absentee hopes of getting Obama in office - it worked!
Balance and Clarity
This section is all about balance. We hear the word all the time - work life balance, ph balance, balance beam, tire balance.
What if there was a way to approach life in more of a mental balance perspective? There is.
This is a little secret that those who have worked with me in recent years might have heard me refer to as "mental aikaido."
Aikaido is the martial arts of taking and diverting energy away from your opponent. It's primarily associated with combat and self-defense. If someone is running at you full speed, aikaido allows you to take that force, convert it to your own.
in progress - Understand what is important and ask yourself questions; put yourself in others shoes
Do you ever question your decisions? Do you spend time re-evaluating your options? Ever catch yourself justifying your decisions to others even when they don't ask you to?
Recalling our inner designers and critics, human tendency allows us the ability of choice in our lives. Yet as intellectuals, it is easy to critique what we are about to do, the plans we are about to put forth and the precursor steps to making something happen.
I call this belonging to the Overthinkers Society. Originally brought to life in a Saturday Night Live skit starring Jeff Goldblum, the epitome of eccentric and well, over-anything in his approach.
As a challenge many of us face in keeping balanced, organized and maintaining a simple approach to life, we frequently don't leverage resources, people and opportunity around us.
Ever feel like you are reinventing the wheel?
On this topic, there is no clear cut solution. There is no one size fits all that says if you just look, what you need is there waiting for you.
But in those cases where we are stretched or even stressed at the overwhelming amount of responsibility we have, we need to be conscious and recognize the situation.
Stop and realize that you need to break down the overwhelming part. You might need the assistance of others. You might need to ask yourself a few basic questions.
Ever heard of something called the 80/20 rule? Does it confuse you too?
I always thought the 80/20 rule applied to non-perfectionists, people who could only survive at tasks by considering 80% a good job, and then receiving mediocre results.
I thought the 20% was noticeable - and especially to perfectionists! So this poor person choosing to end a task at 80% would only further reinforce that he is inadequate.
But that sounds harsh (my critic talking). Turns out that anyone can attempt to figure this 80/20 thing out. And surprisingly, it may still be a success, or great idea or better - the start of something bigger.
For some time now, I've had the urge to create a lifestyle guide. This guide would have practical knowledge and advice but really examine a perfect storm combination of personality, creativity and intention in one's life.
It wouldn't be for everyone, but people who are driven, highly detailed in what they enjoy doing and organized.
This book is designed for people who want to have it all - be good at your career, your home and your community. You also want to change the world, but don't know how. You want to be green and consider yourself much greener than most people around you. You're creative, passionate and when the right project is on your plate, you feel you can move mountains to make something happen.